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XII The Victim (Hanged Man)

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The Victim (The Hanged Man) shows you can't say no. You have fallen into a self-pity role. You can't do what you want, can't find your own will, and don't know how to make decisions. You've taken on a role you don't want just because you don't dare to speak up and believe in yourself. You might evade responsibility, can't handle it, and would rather be "sick" than speak up. You no longer believe in yourself or your ideals; letting others decide without ensuring you create an imbalance in relationships. You play a role that isn't you.

Victim role. Taking on too much or something unwanted. Experiencing a situation that you feel you didn't choose yourself.
​Self-centeredness – many thoughts about yourself. You don't dare to venture into new things and get stuck in situations.

Love
You withdraw and don't feel affirmed; you are anxious, restless, unsure, and doubtful. Stop; a relationship doesn't give you anything. There is no response, no feelings that can be conveyed without powerlessness and insecurity; that's not what you want out of a relationship. You can become a pawn in the game who gets to listen. The Victim is probably one of the worst cards you can get, regardless of the question, because this card makes you feel like a victim of circumstances and everything in life. There's a pattern going on that means you're not getting the desired response.
 
Past
You have felt sorry for yourself but have nevertheless moved on, let go of the limitations, and dared to take a step forward.
You "hit the wall" and have been subjected to abuse, dissatisfaction, and conflicts that have been difficult.
Present
You are stuck, scared, and shattered. You don't see any possibilities; you've locked in your conditions. You back away from what you are supposed to do instead of being sad, depressed, insecure, and limited when it feels safer.
You're more than stuck; you're terrified. You lock in your opportunities, don't want to see the truth, and don't want to participate if you don't get what you want, but you still don't know what you want.
Future
It would be best to watch out that you don't fall into old negative behaviors, insecurities that can take control, fears, and disappointments.
You are facing resistance, worse than expected, and you should probably review your choices and what you can change in life, entering a period of dissatisfaction, sadness, and a tough time. You should dare to let go of preconceived notions and the planned future.

Personality and Soul
You have a big heart that quickly takes on a bit too much. You always want to be as kind as possible and find it difficult to say no. You believe everything rises and falls with you; you must permanently straighten everything out to find peace and often do so with finesse. You handle everything thoroughly and leave nothing to chance. You are stubborn and won't give up until you get your way.

Yearly lesson
​Say No. As soon as you sense this year approaching, saying No is what this year wants to teach you. Setting boundaries and not being exploited. If you have boundaries, it's a relatively calm year; otherwise, everyone will ask for your help with everything, leaving you no chance to catch up with yourself. It could end with you breaking down from exhaustion and sadness since there is no personal space. Some friends might also disappear because you might think they're exploiting you, but be careful not to deceive yourself; maybe you're unclear.

The Hanged Man /The Victim shows that you cannot say no; you're pained about yourself. It will be best to do what you want and find your own will instead of not making decisions—shedding responsibility. You no longer believe in yourself and your ideals; let others decide without seeing that you create an imbalance in relationships—the victim's role. You are taking on too much or something unwanted. You are exposed to a situation you have not chosen yourself.
Reversed
Self-occupation - many thoughts about your own. You don't dare to invest in new things. You are stuck in a situation.
 
Position 1 East (Work)
You are facing resistance; maybe you missed something because things didn't go as expected. You are stuck in old values and fears and do not see what to do. With resistance in life, you are simply off the beaten track. Maybe you become laid off, get tasks you don't like, can't realize yourself, and get stuck in a locked position where you don't get your benefits. Review your security regarding union issues and financial support to avoid more resistance. It's okay to whine for a while but don't get stuck in a failed pattern but see setbacks as experiences that can't be bought.
 
Position 2 South (Love)
If you do not think you are loved as you should be, you may not give yourself the attention you deserve. You cannot love someone who does not dare and is stuck in old patterns; it may be that you can be that one. If you want to have love work, you should probably invite and dare to make demands, be open-hearted, and invite your feelings; do not wait for someone else to act. If you have already lost a loved one, make sure you do not lose yourself. Change your emotional behavior and dare to invest; being burnt is an experience that can teach the one who dares to love even more when the next opportunity is offered.
 
Position 3 West (Finance)
It's probably not a funny situation you ended up in, but why give up? See it as a challenge instead? Maybe you think it can't get any worse; dare to see your mistakes and change. Don't just stand by your mistakes; learn from the experience. Now, you have every opportunity to improve and dare to revise your situation with perhaps a bit of responsibility, and this time without anyone else's influence. When things in life do not work correctly, you are usually on the wrong path; maybe time to think about how you want to live and achieve your goals without involving anyone else.
 
Position 4 North (Health)
Stop pitying yourself, for it makes no one happy; the attention you get from others is not always the most honest when reflecting on depression, lousy, and despairing. You should change your mindset and see what can be positive instead of negative; what do you have to lose? Or think, what do you have to win? You already seem to have lost your judgment of yourself and fallen into self-pity, so why not think about it and see what you can do well and what opportunities you have to move on? But sometimes, it may be time to move on if you feel sorry for yourself, at least for a while.
 
Position 5 Void (Spiritual)
You can end up in the "feel-sorry-about-me" feeling, which can be very destructive, and just because things didn't work out the way you wanted doesn't mean everything is ruined. What values ​​do you have, and what can you do that you can feel proud of, something there is? You don't seem to have followed your life goals and listened too much to others; maybe it's time to take advantage of the lessons, listening to what you want and long for.